I just feeling like doing a self reflecting post at the moment...for us to be a better person in future insyaAllah...
The topic I like to post today is about having a negative feeling for a human being...
So...lets start by having multiple examples to have a clear picture as to why people give way to hating...as there is a saying...I don't know where I got this from...
"everyone in this world wants to love and to be loved"...
just something to think about...a realist might see this is hogwash...
Anyways...have you ever hated someone?...really?...lets try to be honest...to the very least...have you ever feel like avoiding someone because you don't like him or her that much...I know I do have my own share of circumstances...
Example 1
A: I really hate that guy...he is so arrogant...why can't he keep it to himself...did I ask him about great he is...NO!!!
And as such if you ever came across such situation....lets say you're person A...you've know someone that keeps telling you things that might not be the MOST RELEVANT info...or always seem to bug you how much you feel inferior to that person...
REASONING
I think the main reason is that...we feel INFERIOR or JEALOUS to that someone...and we unfairly judge him for being ARROGANT...think about it....have you been outstanding in something and people start calling you names?...or you feel like sharing with everyone some experience or knowledge that you might think is beneficial...but somehow the way you say it make people label you as BOASTFUL?...I think it is just not fair for everyone in this sense...
Example 2
A: Gosh she's RUDE...do you see what she did just now!?....she knocked down me down and didn't even apologize...
REASONING
Maybe that person is in a rush...she is such in a hurry that she didn't even have time to apologize...or something is bothering her mind...worse, she probably needs to go to the washroom...BAD...basically...we don't know...as they say..."don't judge a book by its cover"...so don't jump into the conclusion that she is a bad person...
Example 3
A: She's a liar...period...she never delivers...
B: Liars...Hate 'em...
REASONING
THIS becomes more challenging...who likes being lied to?...who does rite?...typically DUH!!!...but that does not reserve you the right to hate the person...unnecessarily...have you ever tried to think why he or she lied?...although this has a VERY LARGE & DIRECT moral implication...what will you get by hating the person anyway...we should sympathize as to why this person chooses to be perceived as injustice people and rely on people's trust for their survival...surely...liars will not feel content about their life...what makes them choose to do so?...
Example 4
A: She said she loves me...now she's with that guy...ArGHHH!!!
REASONING
tsk tsk...tut tut...pity pity...I guess you'll just have to move on dude...when we talk about love...when someone refuses...then there is just a vacuum in a relationship...doesn't mean also you should fill it with vengeance...just wish them the best in life...
Example 5 (last one)
A: Hey...lets go hangout...I'll ask C to tag along...
B: err...do you have to?...can't we just not call him...
A: Why?..I thought we're friends...
B: I know...still...I prefer if he's not with us...
*Later with C...*
C: I heard you guys went out yesterday.
B: Yup...(without guilt and smiled)
A: *Looks away*
C: *Looks at both A & B...expecting at least a sorry*
Okay then...(walks off)
REASONING
C might feel resentful and unhappy...and perhaps develop a sense of uneasiness...perhaps a low level of hatred...B on the other hand established a stance and making it clear on disliking C...A chooses to abstain (but most likely siding B)...so...it started off with B's problem to accept C in its social circle...also similarly to Example 4...I would introduce this theory..."natural selection"...we always want the best person to be with us...but then...natural selection will cause competition...and as competition goes...one will lose and the other will succeed...at least by this understanding of concept...we will find lesser reason to hate when losing in a "competition".
Another possibility...hating a person for what they are...is not good to begin with...its like saying
"the world is better off without you"..
Well...we're not the party to judge that...I think for B...B should be more objective in friendship...its hard if not impossible...friendship or love is subjective rite?...but still...as human beings...we must be kind and caring to all people...regardless of how they look...etc....cliche...I know...no one's perfect...but doesn't mean we shouldn't work towards it...
CONCLUSION
I can conclude here that....most of the reason why we hate a person is because we have the WRONG ASSUMPTION/IMPRESSION about a person...Apparently, we would have the wrong approach in evaluating and defining a person...MOST IMPORTANTLY..it is best to assume that ALL PEOPLE ARE GOOD...it doesn't have to be true...because ultimately...what we want is to create a loving and caring society that wishes the best for everyone life and afterlife....
Another reason why we must keep hating a person at minimum is because...we are actually hating the person's actions or behaviour....NOT THE PERSON ITSELF...if the person turns a new leaf...what is left to hate about?...because that's all we hoped for anyway ; people to change.
Hopefully...we will be given the light to see truth...
Salam...wallahualam...sorry for any misconception...
